I Want to Die But I Want to Eat Tteokbokki ~ By Sehee Baek
(Anton Hur, trans., Bloomsbury Publishing, London, 2022, ISBN# 978-1-5266-5086-3)
Review by Joanne Rhim Lee (Summer 2024)
The cheeky cover of Sehee Baek’s I Want to Die But I Want to Eat Tteokbokki has a whimsical graphic novel-type illustration of a young woman laying face-down at the edge of her bed, huge bubble-sized tears being ejected from her eyes, while reaching out with her chopsticks for a delicious bowl of tteokbokki on the floor. It looks like she is in a momentary funk, and stress-eating the most delicious late-night snack in the world.
However, this playful cover design is a bit misleading, as readers soon learn. Baek struggles with dysthymia, or persistent mild depression, and her slim “therapy memoir” is a collection of her random musings and conversations with her psychiatrist. In the introduction, she explains that she wrote the book as a record of her struggles and her progress, with the hope of moving in a more positive direction.
Baek’s honesty about her depression is both disarming and refreshing at the same time. She shares quite personal details and dark emotions, and is unafraid of expressing her annoyance at other people who try to help her. “Sometimes, when someone tells me to ‘cheer up’ when I’m going through a tough time, I just want to wring their neck.”
Baek includes some simple and useful advice from her psychiatrist, words that all of us can benefit from. For example, Baek puts an inordinately high value on how other people perceive her, which sometimes leads her to spiralling into depression. Her psychiatrist points out that how she thinks about herself is far more important than what others think about her, and we then get to see how Baek does her best to apply this advice to her life in real time.
It’s hard to know exactly how to take in I Want to Die But I Want to Eat Tteokbokki. Is the author being brutally honest about her depression, or is part of it performative? Does she really put her depressive thoughts on hold in order to eat tteokbokki? If she is really being honest, it is admirable that she’s putting herself out there and being vulnerable, but at the same time, don’t we all have these similar thoughts, wondering what people truly think of our work, and aren’t we all to some extent insecure about how we look or self-conscious about something dumb that we just said? Perhaps it is the novelty of her sharing of these musings that makes it a ground-breaking, clever book.